I Can Go Deeper – I Have It Like That

I’m off forgetting you like it’s something new
Can you hear me? Don’t try and steer me,
You don’t get me, no big deal to me, I’m not tryin to be a mystery
Lookin’ for something that’s harder “than just getting me” to see
Oh cause them others you just got all figured out,
They’re not deep enough to matter a lot,
Can’t hold out their arms and stop the clock,
Or touch your hand and start your heart
Slow it down and speed it back up, with only one call,
Maybe you’re the one or maybe you’re not,
Right now I’m not worrying a lot, Got the future in mind.
Along with my life, you trying to jump on a bumpy ride?
That’s alright, baby trust me I can smooth shit out for you
If I so choose to, Not here trying to lose you, I’m just young
Fun, and I’m moving a lot, so if you really down for me, try and keep up
Take the shot, don’t back off now, we’re already driving off the lot,
Aston martin music, baby top notch, hands firm on your , hear the sound as your heart pounds,
that’s your adrenaline, speedin’ you up, now I’m going to slow you down
Grab hold of you and take you down, good lovin’ bout to hear you nice and loud
as your vocals echo, mattress music sound, Bring you back from the atmosphere
Feed you with sanctification, I know you’re stayin’ here
and give you another second For your lungs to grab some air,
oh you thirsty let’s not forget hydration, i’ll take your mind off of it
Yeah you on a mini vacation, There’s no currency here but lovin’
And I’ve got plenty of it, so I hope you thought this through
Plenty of seconds off your watch you spent wondering what to do
But you and me both know That you don’t want to move,
Keep it right there, now put it there, wait that’s what up
It feels right when I got you tight, Hostage situation?
Maybe you can run one on me later tonight,
after this I know you going to throw the fight
Didn’t I tell you I’m sort of a mind reader, maybe more a sign reader
I read your body and now I’m telling you what I see
You can not get enough of me, so inhale deep in your lungs because you think
You can capture me like 0-2,
and as soon as you go to exhale, I’m leavin’ you, C-oh-2
Kind of like a boomerang, I’m here and then I’m gone again,
but if I throw you right, you’ll always come back to me

I wrote a rap

The Gift and the Curse of Tunnel Vision.

We’ve all had it. We get into this narrow view of something and it just sucks us in. We get drawn in closer and closer. Before too long we’ve forgotten all about looking to our right and left. In other words we have overlooked plenty of information that may have changed how we would have acted. This is dangerous. It can cause all sorts of problems in our day to day lives as well as have significant long term effects. Sounds like a good thing to avoid then right?

Why would we develop such a habit if it could lead to such awful outcomes?

When you need to focus on something it often helps to block out everything else. This can be a huge benefit if we are studying for a test or focusing on getting that end of week report in. If you couldn’t shut out all the unnecessary information your brain is processing you wouldn’t be able to get much done. So tunnel vision is actually a good thing.

Where we run into a problem is when we don’t examine all the details/perspectives before tunneling in. What do I mean? Let us pretend you have a test on Friday morning. On Tuesday you decide, “I’m going to zone in and make sure I am prepared to crush the test.” This is great. You will most likely go on to do this. OH NO you forgot all about redoing a paper from last Friday due Wednesday morning. Ahh. You see this wouldn’t have been a problem if you had examined all the details of your situation before getting tunnel vision. It could have been avoided if you took a casual step back though.

It really gets to be an issue when we get emotionally charged. When we have failed to examine our situations for quite some time and then remain in tunnel vision. We go forward thinking we know exactly how to handle the situation because we are so sure of ourselves. This is where we can do some real damage. This is where we need to be careful with our words and actions.

So what can we do? 

From time to time ask yourself, “Have I taken a good step back before I tunnel in any further?” Have I examined my situations lately? If something doesn’t seem right… Then it may be wrong! Go ahead and step out of that tunnel and look around to make sure everything is in order. You are allowed to take some time to do this! I know we want to focus in. It is natural to assume everything is right and ordered for us to move forward and execute. Just be certain to examine the peripherals every now and then. It can’t hurt. It can only improve awareness and lead to making the best possible decision more often!

Have you been keeping something in the peripheral lately?
Take a breath. Now take a look ‘around’

How to Reclaim Your ‘Self’ !

I’ll try to keep this brief. “This is so important though, why are you only briefing me!” I’m not trying to run your life. I’m only giving you things to consider in a way you might not have. My perspective. YOU still have to decide what’s relative for your life. You may even find better steps on your own journey. If you do… Please share them so I can refine my perspective!

Sometimes you might feel like you’re floating around. Being bombarded by countless things vying for a piece of you. Lost in a sea of information. Well that’s because you are. What? “I’m not floating!” I’m clearly sitting.

I’ll clarify. Let’s simplify life down to the river of importance which I talked about previously.
Remove all distances, spatial relationships, time, etc. This allows us to pull out some of the sensory data and process all the information in a more manageable state. Imagine all the data of life put into a massive pool. It’s all part of the body of water.

A giant pool of stuff. Your relationships, your things, tasks, work, goals, thoughts, feelings, desires, advertising, etc. This pool seems pretty crowded. Can you swim easily in this pool? Is there a flow? Can you create a current to help you move more easily in the direction you choose? The answer is probably no. Not really. All the stuff is going to preclude that from taking place. Now lets add the STRESSES of poor relationships, self doubt, sense of entitlement, etc.

Yes I’m evil, let’s tie all that stuff to your limbs. (Really it would be ‘tied’ to your mental state) You aren’t going to go anywhere efficiently with all that ‘weight’ restricting you. Imagine your mind as a computer processing a hundred tabs. You know what happens when you do that (Yes I’m talking to you). The halting to a slow and errors that can occur. All the stuff in the pool you have to navigate and manage. It becomes rather difficult to just breathe.

“Now that you put it that way it kind of makes sense!”

You are not any of those things. You are not all that stuff. You aren’t your self doubt. You aren’t the things you buy. You aren’t the things society tells you. You are you. There is a self in there that feels good when it lives out what it feels. When it creates! Remember all these things are vying for a piece of you because they don’t get it unless you give it.

Yes there is a you underneath all that stuff! You exist independent of all of it! You are not your broken relationships, clothes, financial stability, number of friends, popularity, car, job, or anything. You are you! The real you is under all that. If you don’t love you, all those things can end up causing harm. You try to fix it by replacing it with other stuff! Then that doesn’t work either! Nothing will take the place of your self. Being comfortable in your center is the secret. How comfortable you are there, will vastly affect all those other things.

Steps to reclaiming your self!

1. You need to sit down and breathe.

Wow breathing comes into a lot of this doesn’t it? Yes. It will bring you back from wherever you are, and get you wherever you need to go.  Go ahead, in through the nose, out through the mouth. Inhale and exhale. Try it.

2. Start pinpointing all the Negative thoughts you have.
(I know you’ve noticed some of already)

This may be overwhelming. If it is necessary, write them down and build a list. Go ahead. You need to dismantle these thoughts. You must replace them with positive messages of self love. You must realize that these negatives are not you. Examine where they may have come from. Understand that you are something much brighter and beautiful than society has told you. Society at large has labeled us in ways we never asked for without our permission. We were forced to swallow them. To wear the ‘shame’ that was imposed on us. To hide what never was an issue.

3. You need to ask ITGFM?

IS THIS GOOD FOR ME? Start with your thumb and count five words. Is this good for me? If it isn’t a quick yes. You need to examine the situation. You might be able to correct it with the help of others or simply adjusting your own approach. If not… You need to cut it out. It isn’t you.

4. Start creating!

What do you mean create? Like make dinner? (Something I need start doing more) Not exactly what I mean. I’m saying to find what motivates you. Something you always wanted to do. A musical instrument? Painting? Building stuff? Taking photographs? Writing? Nature hikes? That is for you to decide. YOU need to unleash yourself!

Really it is that simple. Easier said than done, but one of the most rewarding things to do. Seizing the real treasure hidden in the cave of heroes! Yes, the real you is the only treasure any hero ever need to find. Go forth heroes! Find yourself! You can do it.

Swimming in the River of Importance

In my previous post I discussed how what’s important is RELATIVE TO YOU. Maybe some people were hoping for me to answer that question for them. This is the let down. I can’t ultimately answer that for anyone.

I can take you through the perspective that at the current moment is mine*
This may or may not be useful to you. You may have it all figured out. In either case I congratulate you. You’ve succeeded at something. You can decide if it’s a good thing. This river of importance stuff is a lot deeper than it seems. Yes you’ve been warned. It wasn’t the tip of the iceberg that sunk the Titanic.
*All things subject to change.

Here we are. Individually swimming in the river of importance. You’re swimming in your river. I’m swimming in mine. Someone else may be drowning in theirs or drifting along on a raft. Now hold up. I thought you said we were the water and anything that helped us flow was important! Now you’re saying we’re swimming and some people may even be drowning? Who the hell has a raft?

This is where it gets a little ‘meta’
See we’re all in our own river of importance, but at the same time we all co-create a bigger river of importance. When I say we are ‘swimming’ I mean to say, as individual water droplets/molecules/etc flow in a river and make up the flow, they also swim in that river. So they simultaneously create the flow together, and swim in the flow. Likewise for us as part of the big river.

Now step back. Let’s all stand on the bank of this crazy river before anything gets too wild.
There is this big river of importance. It flows. Inside it are smaller rivers of importance (You and me) that flow/swim. On another level our individual rivers of importance are made up of water drops that flow/swim. This is similar to the layers of an onion. Just imagine a river with different currents all flowing together.

The river is contained by two banks. That’s because all the valuables, all that is important to us is within it (These banks don’t necessarily hold any cash!). Ask yourself what helps you flow? I’ll give you an easy one. Your health! Mental and physical both equally important. Beautiful food you can enjoy! Keeps you alive and healthy. Ironically water is also in the river of importance. Those are pretty straight forward.

What about relating to others? Yes of course. That’s all ‘in’ the river of importance, however it is present in the way you and I flow together in the ‘bigger’ river. Poor relating with others can drain us, or it can bloat our rivers out of balance. There are scenarios where people do not realize how they negatively affect others. This can lead to a destructive current for their river of importance.
That can be examined at a later date.

Now tell me this… You haven’t talked very much about material possessions man! Aren’t these things important? Well remember I can only give you my perspective. Given your situation there are material things that are required to a degree. It’s up to you to decide what is or isn’t. It all depends on how you want to live. Some might call it the lifestyle you choose. Remember importance is relevant to the individual. There are layers to all that too! Maybe a car is relevant if you want to work a certain job. The type of car? Again you decide what’s important. We make sacrifices. You can’t focus on every aspect. You can only pick what’s IMPORTANT and do your best.

I am proposing to you that material things at the core don’t hold the most significant value. Now if you enjoy rocking a sweet outfit, that’s chill. Nothing wrong with wearing some hip threads. Just try to remember what’s important. Don’t let these things crowd your river. If they fill it up, you won’t be able to flow your best. As long as you are healthy and finding some meaning in your situation you are likely to be doing great.